Stress Management: Life Style Suggestions (Tips on Daily Life)

Given below are certain simple suggestions or tips on how to lead your daily life. Improving your life style itself can reduce the existing stresses and control the occurrence of stresses in your life.

• Prepare for the next day's important items of work on the evening of the day.
• Do not keep awake late in nights.
• Sleeping between 10 PM to 11 PM will be a good idea.
• Sleep for around 7 to 8 hours every night. Therefore if you sleep at 10.30 PM, waking up around 6 AM to 6.30 AM is a good idea.
• Wear loose and comfortable clothes while sleeping. Do not wear tight and uncomfortable clothes.
• Before sleeping take stock of the meaningful work your did during the day. It will give you the satisfaction of having achieved something on daily basis and you might get sleep as soon as you hit the bed and may get sound sleep.
• Do some planning for the day, week , month and year ahead. Setting up objectives/goals/targets will facilitate their achievements in smoother and efficient manner. Do not rely only on your memory. Write down. Making the lists helps. Refer: (Goal/Target Setting) http://goal-target-setting.blogspot.com/ 
• Learn and practice time management. Set priorities for work. This way you will not crowd your day with unnecessary and non-value adding work and will use your time on important and value adding activities without feeling stressed. Refer: (Time Management) http://time-life-management.blogspot.com/
• If you have to cook, simplify the meals and use the home/kitchen tips throughout your work weak. For useful tips, refer: http://tastetherecipes.blogspot.com/2011/03/celebrating-my-100th-post-drink-and-few.html and http://tastetherecipes.blogspot.com/
• In addition to spending time on your professional work, set some time aside and do your hobbies, play an outdoor game, do gardening, read light literature and watch an interesting program or movie on television.
• Go for a walk frequently during the week (for around 45 minutes to an hour at one time). Exercise few days in a week. Refer: (Walking) http://walking-plan.blogspot.com/ and (Exercises) http://exercises-plan.blogspot.com/
• Socialize with people. Weekends can be used for this purpose.
• Spend lots of time with your family as often as possible.
• Love your family members unconditionally and demonstrate it by hugging them and expressing, "I love you lots and lots and lots." Develop intimate emotional relationship with your family members.
• Learn to listen and listen a lot. Refer: (Listening) http://listen-skills.blogspot.com/
• Learn to praise others and praise them well. Refer: (Positive Strokes) http://positive-strokes.blogspot.com/
• Share your emotions and feelings with those who are intimate with you.
• Go out for picnics, excursions, sightseeing and travel few times in an year.
• Indulge in eating leisurely breakfasts, lunches, evening tea and dinners with your family on many of your weekends.
• Do eat out once in a while in a relaxed environment.
• If you are married, develop intimate emotional and physical relationship with your spouse.
• Do not try pleasing everyone around you.
• Laugh a lot. Do not take life seriously all the time. Lighten up. Develop your sense of humor.

Stress Management: Lack of Self-esteem or Lack of Self-worth

Lack of self-esteem or lack of self-worth is one of the causes of stress.

Feeling of lack of self-worth emanates from a lopsided pattern of thinking or from your destructive view of the self.

At times it is because of constant comparison of one's achievements with those of others by self or by other people making one feel less of an achiever. Some of such people also get into a habit of always feeling awed by others' achievements and creating an inferiority complex in themselves. For them grass is always greener on the other side or neighbor's wife is always more beautiful than mine syndrome.

Other times it is setting up unrealistic goals and not achieving them.

Some people look down upon their successes all the time. They rate their achievements as insignificant. They believe that they could have achieved more than what they did so far. They are unnecessarily harsh on themselves.

A habit of only looking at failures more than looking at the successes and discounting most of the successes as not worthy of being called as successes also leads to lack of self-worth.

It also happens sometimes that one has not really done an objective assessment of one's success or achievements and has created a false feeling of being a loser because of one reason or the other. It may be fictional all you know.

We also come across situations when the person stressed due to lack of self-esteem is aware that he had not been putting in efforts towards achieving something that will boost his self-worth. This often time happens due to apathy towards life due to laziness or lack of will power.

In all of these situations one thing is sure that the feeling of lack of self-esteem will suck any person into a vicious circle that can be called as diminishing spiral of self worth. The feeling that I do not achieve much most of the times will further put a brake on one's actions and that will further result in non-achievement. Thus it constructs a diminishing spiral and generates lots of stresses all along.

One needs to break this diminishing spiral. For this it important to think straight and objectively about the self- shun the fictional and destructive thinking.

From now onwards, start thinking more about what you achieve on an every day basis and reduce thinking about what you could not achieve. Count your achievements or successes of the day, howsoever insignificant they may seem to you or to others. They are your successes and so, count them. Also think about those strengths of yours which helped you achieve those successes. It will be good habit to write them down as your daily journal and keep on accumulating your successes into this journal.

In addition, try to recall all of your previous achievements and successes from your childhood till today- the day from which you have decided to review your achievements on a daily basis. Document all of these life long achievements also in your journal.

Include even your normally termed very small achievements. Examples: "I told my kid a nice story that delighted him". "I help my wife in cooking". "I completed the official assignment in time today". "I bargained and saved money in today's purchases". "I checked my anger throughout the day". "My interpersonal relationship with my boss improved significantly today because I came to his rescue in a top level meeting". "I enrolled myself in an evening MBA course". "I did not get promotion but I did get a good raise".

As you keep adding your new successes and achievements in your journal on a daily basis, also revise or re-visit your previous achievements and successes by reading and re-reading them. It is your affirmation system- affirming to you that your are good, you are a winner.

By doing this you are shattering your own bleak picture that you had imagined about yourself and bringing in the desired brightness.

That is the start of reversing the spiral. You have now arrested it's tendency to diminish and now it will start increasing in the right way. It will turn into a positive spiral and your self-esteem or self-worth will start improving day by day. In days, the improvements will be more synergistic.

And finally, the continual improvements in your self worth will pull you out of the stresses and strains.